There was a specific topic that was brought up about how there seems to be a lot of femme on femme couples around lately. I made a comment about butch on butch couples (like shane and me) and was instantly told, in just two words, to shut up. I'll post some comments about what people said about butch lesbians and then comment on the comments.
"I never understood this. I mean, the whole butch thing. What I mean is, if I wanted to be with a guy, I would be with a guy. If I want to be with a girl, well then I want to be with a girl who is well, a girl. Not a girl who acts like a guy. If I want someone who behaves like a guy, well, I would go get a guy...."
She goes on to state that she doesn't mean to offend anyone. this is my first issue. I am NOT a man. I do not WANT to be one, and i don't appreciate the sentiment.
"when they’re so beefy you can’t tell whether its a woman or a man..you may aswell just pick yourself up a man."
Do I not have BREASTS? Do i not have a VAGINA? And butch doesn't mean big and beefy. I'm fat, and I have this amazing pear shaped body. I'm still butch!
"a preference is a preference.all they said is that they don’t understand. so dont get your boxers all up in a bunch.and when you shave your head, and people cant tell if youre a girl or guy...that’s when you should say to yourself... man, ... i’m a man."
There is so many things wrong with this. First off, they don't understand, so they're going to hate on me for being butch? HM. sounds a LOT like the people in congress, or in our everyday lives who don't understand why people are HOMOSEXUAL so they deny us rights! Second, since they don't understand, i feel i have the right and the responsibility to help them learn not to be so thick headed! Third, when i shave my head, I look damn fine, but I still have all my parts. I still get my period. I still got pregnant. I still have breasts, and most of all, I still identify as FEMALE.
Granted, there were women saying, "I love butchies! they're so hot!" thank you ladies, yes. yes we are. But it gets me that there are so many other people saying, i don't get it. if they want to be men, they should do it. or, i want my woman to be a woman. I've already pointed out my arguments for this sort of thinking.
The whole point of this is that even in the GLBTQ community, there is discrimination and fear, and it needs to be blotted out with understanding of each and every persons uniqueness! I love my gay brothers, leather and femme. I love my lesbian sisters, whatever they may look like. Because, in all honesty, we are the ONLY culture where everyone in it comes from different backgrounds, different parts of the world. They have different religions, skin colors, hobbies, wants, needs, desires....everything. And if we start picking each other apart, we'll fall. All the things we're working for as a minority will be lost in our own civil war.
So show some love. Either it be for butchies or someone transitioning. We are family. And we are EVERYWHERE.
peace to everyone,
Andy H.
Feel free to email me with your own concerns that you would like me to write about next week. Leave comments. I'd like to think of my mind as open to others opinions as well. Thanks for reading.
