I had a friend ask me an interesting question the other day. are sex toys replaceable or are they a part of you?
what an interesting question. My sex toys have always been my friends. I love to use them, but I also know they're content laying in their little boxes, put to bed (so to speak.) I have known women, however, who believe their sex toys are a part of them, just like their clit or their nipples, their sex toys are part of their sexual anatomy. Now, this does not make them men, no, but something higher, I believe, than male or female, but a nice mix of both. All woman...and a little man.
Well, wouldn't that make the woman in question a man? No. As an extension of herself, her penis works as another part of her female anatomy.
"But...if you're a lesbian and you like it when your partner uses sex toys, doesn't that make you bisexual?" I hate this question. NO. a vagina is still a vagina, whether it's a lesbian one or a straight one. Penetration still feels, for the majority, good. Don't feel bad if you don't like it though. to each their own.
When you get a new partner, do you change toys?
I'll take my advice from Lipstick and Dipsticks Essential Guide to Lesbian Relationships (buy it, it's awesome)
*don't tell your new girl that the toy has been used on other people. let her feel like its your first time (except better...)
*CLEAN IT! throw it in the dishwasher (without soap) and run it through. then use Safety Suds or something like it on it.
*Use a condom. Not only are condoms good for cleanliness, but they also make it easier to change the toy in question from partner to partner, and it'll block any "ex girlfriend vibes" from getting into your new lover.
*Let her explore the toy with you. Make sure she's comfortable with the size or shape before diving in.
There's nothing wrong with going shopping for new toys with each partner. I do. But I know that some don't.
Besides it's fun to step inside a store with your love. And nothing is more fun then looking at butt plugs and saying, "HOLY SHIT SOMEONE CAN TAKE THAT?!" and giggling like you did in 5th grade and someone said weiner.
and I would like to apologize for the delay on this blog. I've been having some medical issues that take up so much time!
thanks for reading. submit any questions or concerns to me at silentlegacy3312@yahoo.com
peace, love and purple sex toys,
Andy H.
Friday, August 29, 2008
Sunday, August 10, 2008
If I Wanted You To Cut Your Nails, Would You?
Question: what do you call a lesbian with long nails?
Answer: Single
Lately, I have been running into some younger lesbians that don't understand why they should cut their nails. It's not so they won't get dirt or oil under them while your working under the hood (you decide which one) or because you should be more "masculine" since you're a lesbian. It's for a simple reason: if you don't cut your nails, a very imporant vagina gets cut, and I'm sure your ladies don't appreciate that very much.
Ladies, for the love of Sappho, cut your damn nails. I'm not saying cut them down so short that your nail bed bleeds, because then you just have to wear gloves when you're having sex (unless you're in a monogamous, commited realtionship you should be anyway...) Cut 'em so you can scratch your lovers back. Cut 'em so you can scratch that misquito bite you got at Dinah Shore. But please, save the vaginal bleeding for when auntie flo comes to visit monthly.
Another thing to remember, after all the cutting and trimming of the nails has been done is to FILE. Sharp edges are just as good at tearing soft and tender skin as long nails. hearing, "ow ow ow! you're nails are too long!" when you're trying to get some funk kinda ruins the moment.
I always have short nails, because i bite them. Shane, however, sometimes needs to be reminded to cut them down. I knew she was a keeper when she cut them so willingly, just to be with me.
Shane is not single.
and neither will you, if you just CUT YOUR NAILS.
next week, maybe we'll discuss the myth that turkey basters really DO work. (I argue they don't...baby syringes are much better.)
as always, email me at silentlegacy3312@yahoo.com with any ideas for a post you would like to see addressed.
peace, love and short nails,
Andy
Answer: Single
Lately, I have been running into some younger lesbians that don't understand why they should cut their nails. It's not so they won't get dirt or oil under them while your working under the hood (you decide which one) or because you should be more "masculine" since you're a lesbian. It's for a simple reason: if you don't cut your nails, a very imporant vagina gets cut, and I'm sure your ladies don't appreciate that very much.
Ladies, for the love of Sappho, cut your damn nails. I'm not saying cut them down so short that your nail bed bleeds, because then you just have to wear gloves when you're having sex (unless you're in a monogamous, commited realtionship you should be anyway...) Cut 'em so you can scratch your lovers back. Cut 'em so you can scratch that misquito bite you got at Dinah Shore. But please, save the vaginal bleeding for when auntie flo comes to visit monthly.
Another thing to remember, after all the cutting and trimming of the nails has been done is to FILE. Sharp edges are just as good at tearing soft and tender skin as long nails. hearing, "ow ow ow! you're nails are too long!" when you're trying to get some funk kinda ruins the moment.
I always have short nails, because i bite them. Shane, however, sometimes needs to be reminded to cut them down. I knew she was a keeper when she cut them so willingly, just to be with me.
Shane is not single.
and neither will you, if you just CUT YOUR NAILS.
next week, maybe we'll discuss the myth that turkey basters really DO work. (I argue they don't...baby syringes are much better.)
as always, email me at silentlegacy3312@yahoo.com with any ideas for a post you would like to see addressed.
peace, love and short nails,
Andy
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